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THE FAIR PLAY PROGRAM

Suggested Resources on Self-Esteem

For Primary Students

Anna Banana and Me, by Lenore Blegvad School : ECVS

This story of how Anna Banana's bravery and carefree spirit holds her shy young friend in awe helps teach children about self-confidence.

Arthur's Nose, by Marc Tolan Brown School : YQS, LVS

Arthur the Aardvark's unusual appearance distresses him, since he wants to look like his friends. He thinks they would like him better if he did. He learns that his nose is part of what makes him special-an individual-and he decides to keep the nose he has.

Dandelion, by Don Freeman School : YQS

This book might be helpful for children who are truing to change themselves to please people who refuse to accept them as a friend.

I Hate My Name, by Eva Grant School : ECVS

This book considers the problems an unusual name can cause a child. This book would be appropriate for discussions about how teasing hurts.

I Never Win!, by Judy Delton School : LVS

A little boy's frustration at always losing translates into great success at the piano, because whenever Charlie loses at something he practices the piano furiously. His playing becomes his means of discovering his own worth. Children will appreciate Charlie's unexpected triumph in this beginning reader, which is also a good read-aloud selection.

Nobody's Perfect, Not Even My Mother, by Norma Simon School : LVS

This book has an array of ethnically and racially varied children and adults, many shown pursuing untraditional tasks and occupations. It helps young readers understand that everyone is good at something and that even adults fall far short of perfection. Children made anxious either by their own shortcomings or by the limitations of the adults in their lives will find reassurance in the examples of grown-ups facing everyday failures and weaknesses, just as children do.

Sometimes I Don't Like School , by Paula Z. Hogan School : LVS

Embarrassment about his poor performance in arithmetic clouds a young boy's feelings about school. Rather than confide in his parents or seek help, he desperately tries to avoid the situation entirely. However, an understanding teacher recognizes his need for help and extra practice. Once George admits his problem, he can and does take the steps necessary to solve it. The text is complemented and extended by colorful illustrations.

Superduper Teddy, by Johanna Hurwitz School : ECVS

Teddy grows in self-confidence as he fights shyness, assumes some independence, and solves problems. Many children will find much that is familiar here.

The Mixes-Up Chameleon, By Eric Carle Location: PERC

In this colorfully illustrated story of self-acceptance, the chameleon's desire to be more impressive is one any small child can share.

What if the Teacher Calls On Me?, by Alan Gross School : NMS

This story presents a familiar classroom dilemma and should be a good discussion starter. Cartoon-like illustrations add humor, while the situation remains real.

 

Books For Primary Students

 

Bernstein, S. & Bernstein, J. (1982). The Bernstein Bears get in a Fight. New York : Random House.

In this popular story, brother bear and sister bear learn that sometimes even people who love each other get in fights, and that these are normal occurrences. Library

Bernstein, S. & Bernstein, J. (1993). The Bernstein Bears and the bully. New York : Random House.

Sister Bear has trouble with a bully. Brother bear tries to help her learn coping strategies. The story has a positive outcome. Library

Brown, M. (1990). Arthur's April fool. Boston : Little, Brown & Co. LVS, ECVS, Library

Arthur's April Fool's surprise is almost spoiled by a bully.

Carlson, N. (1988). I like me. New York : Viking. Library

An appealing little book about taking care of and valuing yourself. This book would be especially helpful for victimized children.

Carslon, N. (1997). How to lose all your friends. N.P.: Puffin Books. LVS

An easy to read picture book that teaches without preaching to young children about the importance of interpersonal skills. Readers experience why no one cares to play with a child who won't share, bullies, never smiles, and whines.

Cohen, M. (1987). Liar, liar Pants on Fire. New York : Young Yearling Books. Library

A boy who is new to his class tries to fit in by bragging.

Doleski, T. (1983). The hurt. Mahwah , NJ : Paulist Press. NMS

What happens to a young boy who hides his feelings and hurt.

Henkes, K. (1991). Chrysanthemum. New York : Greenwillow Books. ECVS, FLR

A kindergarten-aged mouse is teased upon entering school because of her unusual name. The

resolution is weak, but the story in engaging and builds empathy for the victim.

Kellogg, S. (1990). Best Friends. New York : Dial Books for Young Readers. NMS, YQS, ECVS

Many themes of friendship are covered in this wonderful story: creating fantasies to be accepted, loss of a friend, renewal of a friendship, as well as compromise and sharing.

Naylor, P.R. & Malone, N.L. (1994). The king of the playground. N.p.: Aladdin Paperbacks. ECVS

Kevin, with his dad's help and encouragement, learns how to overcome his fear of Sammy, the self-appointed "King of the Playground."

Petty, K. & Firmin, C. (1991). Being bullied. New York : Barron's Books. LVS, NMS

A young school-aged girl encounters a female bully who calls her names, teases, and scribbles on her papers. She tells her mom about her problem and she gets help from her teacher, who protects her from the bully.

Zolotow, C. (1969). The hating book. New York : Harper Collins Children's Books NMS, ECVS.

A little girl knew her friend hated her but she didn’t' know why until she finally got up courage to ask why they were being so rotten to each other.

Zolotow, C. (1982). The quarreling book. New York : Harper Collins Children's Books. Library

A short story about how a quarrel can grow bigger and bigger until it hurts many people. For the youngest elementary children, this book builds an understanding of how aggression can spread unless stopped. A beginning guide to empower the caring majority.

For Teachers

 

Borba, M. (1989). Esteem Builders. Rolling Hills Estates, CA: Jalmar Press. PERC

McDaniel, S. & Fisher, A. (1990). Project self-esteem. Rolling Hills Estates, CA: Jalmar Press. PERC

McKay, M. & Fanning, P. (1987). Self-esteem. New York : MJF Books. EAMS

 

For Parents

 

Elkind, D. (1986) . The Hurried Child. Reading , MA : Addison-Wesley. PCI

 

Suggested Resources on Self-Esteem

 

 

Intermediate Version

 

 

For Teachers

 

Borba, M. (1989). Esteem builders. Rolling Hills Estates, CA: Jalmar Press. PERC

McDaniel, S. & Fisher, A. (1990). Project self-esteem. Rolling Hills Estates, CA: Jalmar Press. PERC

McKay, M. & Fanning, P. (1987). Self esteem. New York : MJF Books EAMS

 

To Read To Students

 

Levine, M. (1993). All kinds of minds. Cambridge , MA : Educators Publishing Services. EAMS

 

For Parents

 

Elkind, D. (1986). The hurried child. Reading , MA : Addison-Wesley. PCI

 

Books for Intermediate Age Students

Author  Book Location
Avi Romeo and Juliet Together at Last ECVS, YQS, EAMS, PCI  
Blume, J Blubber  FLR, ECVS, EAMS  
  Iggie's House  LVS, EAMS, YQS, ECVS, NMS  
Bulla, C.R Dexter YQS  
  Shoeshine Girl ECVS, LVS, FLR, OAK  
Burch, R Almost A Hero   ECVS  
  Queenie Peavy YQS, EAMS, PCI  
Burnett, F.H The Secret Garden  FLR, NMS, EAMS, PCI, YQS, ECVS
Byars, B The 18th Emergency EAMS, YQS, NMS, LVS, FLR
  The Pinballs YQS, PCI, NMS, EAMS, LVS, ECVS  
Cohen, B Thank You, Jackie Robinson EAMS  
Estes, E The Hundred Dresses  LVS, FLR, EAMS, YQS  
Gaeddert, L.A Your Former, Friend, Matthew LVS  
Garrigue, S Between Friends EAMS, YQS  
Giff, P.R Love, From the Fifth Grade Celebrity FLR, YQS, ECVS  
Greene, C.C A Girl Called Al  NMS, FLR, PCI  
  Ask Anybody  NMS  
Hassler, J Four Miles to Pinecone EAMS, LVS  
Hermes, P Friends Are Like That EAMS, YQS  
Howe, J A Night Without Stars EAMS
Neville, E.C It's Like This, Cat EAMS, LVS, OAK, YQS  
Perl, L Me and Fat Glenda EAMS, ECVS
Prelutsky, J Poems of A. Nonny Mouse YQS, NMS
Selden, G The Cricket in Times Square EAMS, FLR, OAK, NMS
Spears, E.G The Sign of the Beaver NMS, EAMS, FLR, LVS  
Stolz, M The Noonday Friends FLR, OAK

Books for Intermediate Students

 

Bosch, C. (1988). Bully on the bus. Seattle , WA : Parenting Press. NMS

A terrific book that allows the reader to select from different options of how to handle a bully encountered on the school bus. For example, the victim can decide to fight back or to ask a friend for help by turning to different pages to learn the outcome. Children eventually read al the options, curious to find out which one proves the most effective. Many good ideas are presented for victimized children.

Byars, B. (1981). The 18th emergency. New York : Puffin Books. Library

A 12 year old boy is tormented by the school bully for belittling him. His parents are of no help nor is his best friend, who is also frightened of the bully. Eventually he is beaten up by the bully.

Estes, E. (1944). The hundred dresses. New York : Harcourt Brace Jovanovich Library

A Newberry Honor story that will touch hearts: about the humiliation that results from teasing amongst elementary-aged girls. A good story to empower the caring majority.

Nayor, P. (1991). Reluctantly Alice . New York : Atheneum. Library

Story of a seventh grade girl who is made fun of in class, tripped in the halls, and hit by flying food in the cafeteria by another girl and her cohorts. When each student in class must select someone to interview, the girl chooses the bully. The girls eventually come to know each other better and bullying stops.

Rochman, H. & McCampbell, D. (1993). Who do you think you are? Stories of friends and enemies. Boston ,MA: Little, Brown and Co. PCI

A collection of short stories about friendship-being a friend, being let down, being picked on, and being cared about. A great book for enlisting the empathy of the caring majority.

Stolz, M. (1963). The bully of Barkham Street . New York : Harper Collins Children's Books. Library

The main character in this story is the bully. He is a sixth grade boy who is the oldest and biggest in his classroom. His family rarely listens to him and often threatens to take away his only friend, his dog.

Books for Kindergarten and First Grade

 

The following list of books would work well for reading aloud to kindergarten and first grade students. In

addition, some first grade students and most second grade students could read these books themselves. The books that are starred are librarians' and children's favorites.

Author  Book Location
Brandenberg, F Leo and Emily ECVS
  Nice New Neighbors EAMS, ECVS
Briggs, R  The Snowman  ECVS, EAMS, PERC  
Burningham, J. The Friend  LVS  
Carle, E Do You Want to Be My Friend? PERC, YQS, ECVS, EAMS  
Cohen, M Best Friends   ECVS, FLR
  Will I Have a Friend? ECVS, EAMS, YQS, FLR  
De Beer, H Little Polar Bear  NMS, YQS  
De Regniers, B.S.  May I Bring a Friend?  ECVS, YQS, EAMS  
Elliottare, D  Grover Goes to School  ECVS  
Erickson, R Toad for Tuesday   FLR, NMS
Heine, H.  Friends   ECVS  
Hoban, R. A Bargain for Frances ECVS, YQS  
Howe, J I Wish I Were a Butterfly  NMS, LVS, ECVS  
Komiako, L Annie Bananie  ECVS  
Krasilovsky, P.  The Shy Little Girl NMS, YQS  
Lionni, L  It’s Mine  NMS, ECVS
  Little Blue and Little Yellow  NMS  
  Alexander and the Wind-Up Mouse   NMS, ECVS
Lobel, A. Days with Frog and Toad  ECVS, NMS, YQS  
  Frog and Toad All Year   FLR, OAK, LVS YQS, ECVS  
  Frog and Toad are Friends  LVS, YQS, FLR, OAK, ECVS  
  Frog and Toad Together   FLR, OAK, ECVS, LVS  
Marshall, E.  Fox and His Friends  OAK  
Marshall, J. George and Martha  FLR, ECVS, LVS, YQS  
  George and Martha Encore  ECVS, LVS  
  George and Martha One Fine Day  FLR, LVS  
  George and Martha Rise and Shine  FLR, LVS  
Minarik, E.H. Little Bear's Friend     ECVS, FLR, LVS
Petty K. & Firmin, C. Making Friends   LVS  
Robins, J. Addie Meets Max   ECVS, LVS  
Sharmat, M.W  Mitchell is Moving  ECVS, FLR  
Steig, W. Amos and Boris  OAK, YQS  
Stevenson, J.  Fast Friends  YQS  
Udry, J.M.  Let's Be Enemies  ECVS  
Waber, B  Ira Sleeps Over   FLR
Wells, R  Timothy Goes to School FLR  

Books for Kindergarten Through Third Grade  

The following books are great for reading aloud to kindergarten through third grade students. In addition, some second grade and most third grade students could read these books themselves. The books that are starred are librarians' and children's favorites.


Author  Book Location
Aliki  We are Best Friends ECVS  
Browne, A.  Willy & Hugh   Library
Bourgeois, P Franklin's New Friend   Library
Craig, H.  The Night of the Paper Bag ECVS  
Delacre, L.  Nathan's Fishing Trip  ECVS, LVS
DeLuise, D Charlie the Caterpillar  ECVS, VIC, NMS  
Fleischman, S. The Scarebird  NMS
Hallinan, P.K. A Rainbow of Friends  LIBRARY  
Henkes, K. Chester's Way  ECVS
  Jessica   NMS, YQS, ECVS  
Hissey, J Old Bear  ECVS  
Hoban, R Bet Friends for Frances   LIBRARY
Hoff, S Who Will be My Friends?   ECVS, LVS
Keats, E.J A Letter to Amy ECVS  
  Apartment Three  ECVS  
Kellogg, S Won't Somebody Play With Me?  ECVS, NMS  
Kessler, L  Here Comes the Strikeout  LVS, NMS, ECVS  
Komiako, L Earl's Too cool for Me  YQS  
Krauss, R I'll Be You and You Be Me   ECVS, EAMS
Monson, A.M Wanted: Best Friend   ECVS
Reider, K. Snail Started it!   NMS
Snihura, U I Miss Franklin P. Snuckles  LIBRARY
Stevenson, J The Worst person in the World LVS  
Turkle, B Thy Friend, Obadiah  ECVS  
Viorst, J Rosie and Michael  LIBRARY  
Waber, B. Ira says Goodbye  LIBRARY  
  Ira Sleeps Over LIBRARY  
White, E. B.  Charlotte's Web  LIBRARY
Whittman, S. A Special Trade  ECVS  
Zolotow, C.  The Hating Book  NMS, ECVS  
  It's Not Fair  LVS, NMS  
  The Quarreling book  LIBRARY
  My Friend John  NMS

 

Topic Bibliography for Primary Age Students  

 

Books About MAKING NEW FRIENDS:  


Author  Book Location
Aliki  We Are Best Friends  ECVS  
Cleary, B.B. Henry and the Paper Route   LIBRARY  
Cohen, M  Will I Have A Friend?  LIBRARY  
DeRegniers, B.S. How Joe and Sam the Moose got Together   ECVS  
Hariss, D.J.  The School Mouse  LIBRARY  
Hurwitz, J. Aldo Applesauce  LVS, YQS  
Keats, E.J.  Apartment Three  EVCS  
Krasilovsky, P The Shy Little Girl   NMS, YQS  
Leedy, L. How Humans Make Friends  ECSS, NMS  
Minarik, E.H.  Little Bear's friend  LIBRARY
Robinson, N.K.  Wendy and the Bullies LIBRARY 
Stevenson, J. Fast Friends  YQS  
Udry, J.M.

What Mary Jo Shared 

NMS, YQS, ECVS  

Books About BEST FRIENDS:  


Author  Book Location
Bradenberg, A.L.  We Are Best Friends  ECVS  
Burningham, J.M.  The Friend  LVS  
Haas, D.  Poppy and the Outdoors Cat   ECVS
Hoban, R.C. . Best Friends for Frances   LIBRARY  
Marshall, J.  George and Martha Rise and Shine  LIBRARY  
Sharmat, M.W.  Burton and Dudley  ECVS
  Mitchell is Moving   LIBRARY
Zelonky, J My Best Friend Moved Away  ECVS, LVS  
Zolotow, C.S. It's Not Fair  LVS, NMS  

Books About KEEPING FRIENDS:  


Author  Book Location
Carlson, N. How to Lose All Your Friends   LVS  
Stolz, M.S.  Maximilian's World  ECVS  

Books About THE MEANING OF FRIENDSHIP:  


Author  Book Location
Burton , VL.  Mike Mulligan and His Steam Shovel  LIBRARY  
Clifton , L. Three Wishes  CVS
Freeman, D.. Corduroy   LIBRARY
Hallinan, P.K. That's What a Friend Is  LIBRARY  
Hogan, P. I hate Boys, I Hate Girls  PCS  
  Sometimes I Get So Mad  PCS  
Turkle, B Thy Friend, Obadiah  VIC

Set Straight on Bullies. (1988). National School Safety Center , 4165 Thousand Oaks Boulevard, Suite 290 , Westlake Village , CA 91362 . . ECVS, YQS

An 18-minute video that presents the story of a young boy victimized by a bully. The video is designed to educate school staff and students that bullying is a problem that adversely effects everyone within a school environment if it is tolerated.

Videotapes and Films for Students

 

Broken Toy. (1992). Summerhill Productions, 846 1/2 McIntire Avenue , Zanesville , OH 43701 YQS

A 25-minute video that depicts a number of realistic scenarios in the life of a 12-year old boy who is ridiculed and physically assaulted at school. Not only is the home life of the victim portrayed, but the main bully's family is also depicted. While the story builds empathy for the victim, the content is dramatic. The ending, however, restores hope. The goal of this video is to build awareness and compassion in the bullies by showing them how much emotional damage their behavior can cause.
For grades 5 and up. Preview before using.

Books for Educators

Borba, M. (1989) ................... .Esteem builders. Rolling Hills Estates, CA: Jalmar Press. PERC

This self-esteem curriculum is designed for grades K-8, and presents specific ideas for improving student achievement and behavior as well as the overall school climate.